Rekindle Your ADHD Relationship: Practical Tools for Couples
Saturday, November 7, 2026 | 1:00–4:00 PM ET
A 3-hour live workshop with Linda Roggli, PCC. This workshop is $147 on its own, but for limited time it’s included free when you get the Couples’ Palooza Encore Package for just $97.
Both partners attend under one registration. Can’t make it live? The replay is included.
The Event Is Over. Your Next Step Isn’t.
The ADHD Couples’ Palooza wrapped on October 25. Maybe you caught a few sessions. Maybe you meant to and life got in the way (that’s ADHD for you). Either way, you probably heard something that made you think, “That’s us.”
Knowing what’s going wrong is one thing. Knowing what to do about it on a Tuesday night when you’re both tired is another.
That’s what this workshop is for: three hours with Linda Roggli, live, practicing the tools that help ADHD couples talk without the tension, stop the blame cycle and find their way back to each other.
Get both Encore and the workshop for just $97 limited time only!
Meet the 2026 Speakers
Learn from ADHD and relationship experts across three days of presentations designed to help you better understand ADHD in relationships and find practical ways forward.
Friday’s sessions are available from 12 PM Eastern until 3 PM Eastern on Saturday.
The ADHD Apology Problem: Sorry Isn’t Always Enough
Sharon Saline, Psy.D.
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We all make mistakes in relationships, and a sincere apology can go a long way. But when ADHD-related challenges with forgetfulness, impulsivity, emotional reactivity, or follow-through lead to the same conflicts again and again, “I’m sorry” may stop feeling like enough. One partner may feel frustrated and disappointed, while the other feels ashamed, defensive, or discouraged that their best intentions haven’t led to lasting change. In this session, we’ll talk about how couples can step out of this painful cycle and move toward repair instead of blame. You’ll learn practical ways to pair compassion with accountability, work together on realistic changes, and rebuild trust through what happens after the apology.
About Dr. Saline:
Dr. Sharon Saline is the author of the award-winning book What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life and The ADHD Solution Card Deck. She specializes in working with ADHD and neurodivergent children, teens, adults, and families, helping them improve cognitive and executive functioning skills, mental health, resilience, self-confidence, and personal relationships. She consults with schools, clinics, and businesses internationally. Dr. Saline is an instructor at the University of Massachusetts Chan Medical School, a part-time lecturer at the Smith College School for Social Work, a blogger for PsychologyToday.com, and a contributing expert on MASS Live at WWLP TV. She serves on the editorial board and hosts a monthly live event for ADDitudemag.com. Her writing has also been featured in numerous online and print publications, including MSN.com, The Psychotherapy Networker, Smith College Studies in Social Work, and Attention Magazine.
Bonus Title: Apologies of Action for Adults and Couples
Bonus Type: PDF
Bonus Description: This is a concise, practical guide for making genuine apologies that stick. It summarizes the strategies from our session.
Love Without Overfunctioning: Being Responsible TO Your Partner, Not FOR Them
Kristen Carder
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What if loving your partner didn’t require managing their emotions, fixing their problems, or carrying the relationship on your back? In this session, you’ll learn the game-changing difference between being responsible TO your partner and being responsible FOR them. One creates trust, teamwork, and intimacy. The other breeds resentment, exhaustion, and parent-child dynamics. Especially in ADHD relationships, it can be easy to confuse helping with overfunctioning. You’ll learn how to stay deeply supportive without taking over, how to set healthier boundaries without becoming distant, and how to build a relationship where both people are allowed to be capable, responsible adults.
About Kristen Carder:
Kristen Carder is the host of the I Have ADHD podcast and a multi-certified coach who has supported thousands of people with ADHD worldwide. She is the author of the new book You’re Not in Trouble: The ADHD Guide to Building Healthy, Connected Relationships and the founder of FOCUSED, a global coaching program for adults with ADHD.
Bonus Title: You’re Not in Trouble Chapter Sampler
Bonus Type: PDF
Bonus Description: Be the first to read the Intro + Chapter 1 of Kristen’s debut book You’re Not in Trouble: The ADHD Guide to Building Healthy, Connected Relationships!
Distracted in the Bedroom? Let’s Talk ADHD and Couples
Lyne Piché, Ph.D.
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All relationships have challenges, but ADHD can bring some unique ones into the bedroom. In this fun, conversational, and upbeat discussion about ADHD, sex, and relationships, we’ll explore how distractibility, sensory needs, novelty, and other ADHD traits can affect intimacy and sexual connection. Dr. Lyne shares practical ways couples can better understand these challenges, communicate about their needs, stay present, and bring more play, pleasure, and connection into their relationship.
About Dr. Piché:
Dr. Lyne Piché is a Psychologist who has helped people with sexual issues for 28 years. She specializes in the intersection of ADHD and sexuality. She provides sexual therapy, couples counselling, relationship counselling, and trauma counselling in her private practice. Dr. Piché is an EMDRIA-certified EMDR therapist. She is also a Forensic Psychologist. She was awarded a Significant Contribution Award by the Criminal Justice Section of the Canadian Psychological Association in 2026. Dr. Piché offers online courses about ADHD & sex for the general public and for clinicians. She has also published a workbook about ADHD and sex, which is now available. To learn more about Dr. Piché, please visit www.ADHDsex.com.
We Finally Saw the Same Thing: What Happier Together Actually Looks Like
Robin Nordmeyer, CLC, PCAC
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1. Two truths, one day. Couples arrived stuck in repeating fights. Both partners were rating the same behaviors from opposite seats, some very much real, some misguided.
2. The reframe does the work. Once behavior was understood as differences in brain wiring and executive function, rather than character, both partners’ ratings improved, with gains holding out in future weeks.
3. Nobody improves alone. A big take away demonstrated from the study was It Takes Two – Couples where both partners engaged moved forward. Couples who left it to the ADHD partner did not. Happier together is a team result, by design. The study supported the redesign.
About Robin Nordmeyer:
Robin Nordmeyer, PCAC, is Co-founder of the Center for Living Well with ADHD, a twelve-coach practice serving every age and stage. She is also founder of Realized Brilliance. With 15 years of coaching, she specializes in coaching executives, founders, and couples impacted by ADHD.
With colleague Joyce Kubik, she created and led Marriage Uncomplicated, an eight-week group workshop over three years. Their study of twenty-eight couples, newly published in the International Journal of Evidence-Based Coaching and Mentoring, is the only peer-reviewed study of coaching for ADHD couples and evidence that both partners gain by working as a team. That work continues with ADHD Marriage Uncomplicated, a 12-week program she leads with Center Co-founder Katherine Jahnke.
Robin has watched the patterns ADHD creates in leadership surface on the home front, so her work expands into building collaboration, contribution, and presence with the people clients care about most. Robin is a Certified Experience Design Consultant focused on neurodivergent employee experiences; she brings a Fortune 100 background at Procter & Gamble and serves as Vice President and Credentialing Co-Chair of the Professional Association of ADHD Coaches. She has navigated much of what she teaches in her own forty-year marriage.
Bonus Title: Designing Future Us: A Side-by-Side Strengths Guide for ADHD Couples
Bonus Type: PDF Guide – But could this be a free pass to a workshop?
Bonus Description: You have spent years troubleshooting what goes wrong. This guide starts somewhere else. It’s the strengths exercise we used with couples in the workshop behind our published research to help with perspectives hunting. You each take the free VIA Character Strengths survey, place your results side by side, and work through a short set of reflection questions together. In about thirty minutes you will have language for what each of you brings, and a first sketch of the two of you that you actually want to build.
Pressure Creep: Relationship Challenges Hidden in Plain Sight
Jeff Copper, MBA, PCC, PCAC, CPCC, ACG
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In simple terms, the job of the defense in sports is to put pressure on the offense. Why? Because it inhibits performance. Pressure in a relationship can have a profound negative ripple of impact. It’s like the “boiling frog” parable. If you put a frog into boiling water, it will immediately jump out. But if you put it into cool water and slowly raise the temperature, the frog supposedly won’t notice the gradual change and will eventually be boiled. This presentation will address the kinds of pressure and the impact of pressure to reveal the important need for daily awareness.
About Jeff Copper:
Jeff Copper, cognitive engineer, ADHD coach, and expert on attention issues, is founder of DIG Coaching Practice and host and founder of Attention Talk Radio and Attention Talk Video. He coaches individuals with ADD/ADHD who are seeking to realize their potential, both personally and in business. As someone who has had to learn to manage attention and deal with his own challenges, he is the author and developer of Cognitive Ergonomics From the Inside Out®, an innovative and radical departure from the current paradigm as an intervention for ADHD. He received the 2022 Professional Excellence Award by the ADHD Coaches Organization. He holds a bachelor’s degree from Indiana University, an MBA from University of Tampa, professional designations from International Coaches Federation (ICF), Professional Association for ADHD Coaches (PAAC), and certifications from ADD Coach Academy (ADDCA) and Coaches Training Institute (CTI). He is a member of Attention Deficit Disorder Association (ADDA), Children and Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (CHADD), ADHD Coaches Organization (ACO), PAAC, and ICF. He has published eight eBooks, and his work continues to redefine ADHD coaching, empowering individuals to harness their strengths, manage challenges, and achieve their full potential with greater efficiency and confidence.
Bonus Title: Working Memory: Your GPS in Life
Bonus Type: eBook
Bonus Description: This eBook, “Working Memory: Your GPS in Life,” will help you understand working memory, its challenges and its roles, and the impact ADHD has on working memory. While working memory presents self-regulation challenges, it’s not just a focus issue. To address how executive functioning impacts working memory, we asked ADHD genius, Dr. Russell Barkley, to talk about his concept of working memory and why he uses the term “GPS” as a metaphor to change your life. By relieving the burden on working memory, those with ADHD can focus more easily.
Accepting ADHD without “Giving Up or Giving In”
Melissa Orlov
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What does it really mean to accept ADHD in a relationship without feeling like you’re giving up, giving in, or lowering your standards? Melissa Orlov explores how ADHD can affect trust, expectations, and partnership—and how couples can find a healthier balance. Learn how focusing on values, boundaries, transparency, and each partner’s responsibilities can help move ADHD from a source of ongoing conflict toward a more neutral presence in the relationship.
About Melissa Orlov
Melissa Orlov is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com and has spent nearly two decades helping couples improve their ADHD-impacted relationships. Her seminars, books and writings have helped hundreds of thousands learn how to love again.
Saturday’s sessions are available from 12 PM Eastern until 3 PM Eastern on Sunday.
Ask For What You Want (Instead of Complaining About What You Didn’t Get)
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It’s easy to feel disappointed or frustrated with our partner at times. Nobody’s perfect. It’s also easy to respond to that disappointment or frustration with a complaint or accusation (“you’re so critical”). While this may be true, it’s probably not helpful. So, let’s talk about how to ask for what you want instead (“I’m sorry I forgot, but I would really appreciate it if you could notice how hard I’m trying”). This makes it easier for your partner to empathize and work together, rather than sliding into a defensive debate. Let’s both bring our best to these moments.
About Dr. Tuckman:
Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA is a psychologist, international presenter, author, and ADHD thought leader. He has given more than 900 presentations and podcast interviews and routinely earns excellent reviews for his ability to make complicated information understandable and useful. He is the author of five books, including his newest, The ADHD Productivity Manual. A popular expert and advocate, he has been widely quoted in national media such as The New York Times, CNN, Washington Post, and Boston Globe, and serves as an expert advisor for the Institute for Challenging Disorganization, Understood.org, InsightTimer, and CHADD’s media team.
Bonus Title: Four chapters of The ADHD Productivity Manual
Bonus Type: PDF
Bonus Description: You will feel more comfortable asking for what you want if you feel better about how you’re managing your life. These four chapters help you set a better foundation by addressing sleep, diet, and exercise; whether to take medication; noticing your successes; and surrounding yourself with good people. It feels good to bring your best to the day.
Practical Ways to Shift Out of the Parent/Child Dynamic (Strategies for Both Partners)
Rachel Ban, LICSW
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Does it feel like one of you is doing all the tracking, managing and fixing, while the other feels micro-managed and like they can’t do anything right? We call this the parent/child dynamic and it is one of the most common challenges in ADHD impact relationships. It often leaves one partner feeling exhausted and resentful and the other feeling criticized and full of shame. In this practical, encouraging session, you’ll learn why this dynamic develops, how both partners keep it going without meaning to, and realistic strategies each of you can start using right away. You’ll leave with fresh tools and renewed hope for sharing the load and reconnecting as equal partners.
About Rachel Ban:
Rachel Ban, (she/her) is the Director of Couples Programs at ADHD and Marriage, and a seasoned couples therapist who brings extensive professional training focused on evidence-based couples therapy and ADHD relationship dynamics, as well as ample personal experience in a relationship with an ADHD partner. Rachel co-created and runs the Intent to Action Membership Program — the only place exclusively for couples with ADHD relationship dynamics to access community, expert support and a wealth of information to turn good intentions into meaningful action.
Bonus Title: Verbal Cue Worksheet
Bonus Type: PDF
Bonus Description: A practical worksheet to help couples identify and use simple verbal cues that can improve communication, reduce misunderstandings, and make difficult conversations easier to navigate.
How Different Styles Collide: When ADHD Gets Blamed for Misunderstandings
Bonnie Mincu, MA, MBA
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In many couples where ADHD is present, the ADHD gets blamed whenever there’s friction or misunderstanding. This happens when communication goes wrong, or when motives behind someone’s actions are misinterpreted. But the real issue may not be ADHD at all. Instead, it’s often a hidden clash of personal preferences and communication styles that cause people to misread each other’s meaning.
Find out how basic personal differences and opposite conversational norms can lead to misunderstanding, rejected feelings, and unnecessary blame. Learn how to decode hidden verbal and behavioral cues for more effective communication and greater insights in understanding your partner.
About Bonnie Mincu:
Bonnie Mincu has coached and trained adults with ADHD since 2001, following a 23-year corporate career in training, coaching, management consulting and Organization Development. She thrived in that deadline-driven environment, only learning she had ADHD after leaving it.
Her extensive background in communication and interpersonal dynamics gives Bonnie a unique perspective on what happens when different personal and communication styles collide. As an Organization Development consultant, she helped work teams recognize how differences in personality, communication preferences and cultural styles could easily be misinterpreted as problems with the other person.
Bonnie now brings that perspective to her work with ADHD adults, where relationship concerns often arise in coaching. She helps clients recognize when ADHD may be affecting a relationship—and when perfectly valid differences between two people are being mistakenly blamed on ADHD.
Bonnie has developed numerous tools, strategies and courses for ADHD adults and is a frequent speaker at ADHD conferences and summits. Her online Productivity Pathfinder membership helps adults with ADHD build greater self-mastery through training, coaching and live events.
Bonus Title:
Relationships, Communication & ADHD: When Different Styles Collide
Bonus Type:
Video training online with couples worksheet PDF
Bonus Description:
This video training and couples worksheet from ADHD Coach Bonnie Mincu explores how differences in communication styles and personal preferences can create misunderstandings that may have little to do with ADHD. It also looks at how RSD can intensify those moments.
The worksheet helps couples identify where their styles differ so they can better understand one another, reduce blame, and improve communication. The insights can also be useful in relationships with family, friends, and colleagues.
The Nervous System Behind the Argument: ADHD, Regulation and Connection
Lisa Rabinowitz, MA, LCPC
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Why do ADHD couples keep having the same argument, even when they both want things to get better? Often, the real problem is not the topic itself, but what is happening in each partner’s nervous system. When overwhelm, defensiveness, shutdown, or emotional dysregulation take over, even small disagreements can quickly feel huge. In this engaging presentation, Lisa Rabinowitz will help couples recognize the hidden regulation patterns driving conflict and disconnection. Participants will learn simple ways to interrupt escalation, understand each other more clearly, and reconnect faster after conflict. The goal is not perfect communication, but a calmer, safer, more connected relationship.
About Lisa Rabinowitz:
Lisa Rabinowitz, MA, LCPC, is a licensed couples therapist, relationship coach, author, and speaker specializing in ADHD and relationships. She is a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, Certified PACT Couples Therapist, ADHD-Certified Clinical Services Provider, and Certified Informed Menopause Practitioner. Lisa works with couples who feel stuck in cycles of conflict, disconnection, resentment, emotional reactivity, and misunderstanding. Her approach integrates evidence-based couples therapy with attachment work, nervous system regulation, breathwork, mindfulness, and practical tools that help partners understand one another more clearly and create lasting change. She is the author of Why Won’t You Stop Interrupting Me? Simple Solutions for ADHD Couples and has presented nationally and internationally on ADHD, relationships, emotional regulation, and couples communication. Lisa is especially passionate about helping neurodiverse couples move beyond blame and recognize the deeper patterns driving their struggles. Through therapy, couples intensives, retreats, speaking, and education, Lisa helps partners strengthen emotional safety, improve communication, deepen intimacy, and develop a more secure and connected relationship. Her work emphasizes compassion, accountability, and practical strategies couples can use long after therapy ends.
Bonus Title: The Couple’s 5-Minute Nervous System Reboot Guide
Bonus Type: PDF
Bonus Description: Discover five simple, powerful ways to calm your nervous system, stop escalation, and feel more connected to your partner today.
ADHD or Toxic Relationship? How to Tell the Difference
Stephanie Sarkis, Ph.D.
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Is it ADHD, or is something more concerning happening in your relationship? ADHD can contribute to impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, communication difficulties, and problems with follow-through. But some behaviors may also be signs of an unhealthy or toxic relationship. In this engaging interview, Dr. Stephanie Moulton Sarkis explores how to tell the difference and what to do when ADHD and unhealthy relationship dynamics overlap. Learn how patterns of accountability, empathy, repair, manipulation, gaslighting, and control can help determine what you’re experiencing. You’ll leave with practical insights for recognizing the key differences between ADHD-related challenges and toxic relationship patterns, and why knowing the difference matters.
About Dr. Sarkis:
Stephanie Moulton Sarkis, Ph.D., is a licensed, board-certified psychotherapist and Florida Supreme Court Certified Family and Circuit Mediator specializing in ADHD, anxiety, narcissistic abuse, and relationship dynamics. She is the author of several books and workbooks, including the bestselling Natural Relief for Adult ADHD: Complementary Strategies for Increasing Focus, Attention, and Motivation With or Without Medication and Healing From Toxic Relationships: 10 Essential Steps to Recover from Gaslighting, Narcissism, and Emotional Abuse.
Dr. Sarkis hosts the Talking Brains podcast and co-hosts the Briefcase & Couch podcast. A longtime contributor to Psychology Today, she is a sought-after expert featured in media outlets worldwide. She maintains a teletherapy private practice based in the Tampa Bay area.
Bonus Title: ADHD or Toxic Relationship? How to Tell the Difference
Bonus Type: PDF
Bonus Description: Is it ADHD, or is something else going on? This practical guide from Dr. Stephanie Moulton Sarkis helps you look beyond individual incidents and identify the patterns that matter. Discover five key questions to help distinguish ADHD-related relationship challenges from the toxic traits of manipulation, gaslighting, and other unhealthy dynamics—and learn why accountability, empathy, and repair can tell you more about what is happening in your relationship.
Too Loud, Too Bright, Too Scratchy, Too Much: Sensitivities and the ADHD Relationship
Linda Roggli, PCC
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Why does a hug from behind feel sweet on Sunday but startling on Tuesday? Turns out that folks with ADHD are far more likely to be sensitive to touch, sound, smell, light, and even textures. Those shifting sensitivities can leave partners feeling confused and possibly rejected. ADHD coach Linda Roggli, PCC, shares the science behind our sensitivities, highlighted with her own personal experiences. Then she reminds us that even non-ADHD partners have their own sensitivities, so accommodations can swing both directions. You’ll leave with practical tools, from a daily “sensory weather report” to protecting closeness even if you decide on a “sleep divorce.”
Sunday's sessions are available from 12 PM Eastern until 3 PM Eastern on Monday.
The Myth of Consistency in ADHD Relationships
Tamara Rosier, Ph.D., BCC
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In ADHD relationships, inconsistency is often mistaken for indifference. A partner may remember something one day and forget it the next. Follow through easily in one situation and struggle in another. From the outside, that can look like a lack of effort, caring, or responsibility. In this session, Tamara Rosier will explain why ADHD creates inconsistent access to attention, working memory, motivation, emotional regulation, and follow-through. Couples will learn how to separate ability from access, understand what affects access in the moment, and reduce the blame and resentment that can build when inconsistency is misunderstood.
About Dr. Rosier:
Dr. Tamara Rosier is an author, speaker, and founder of the ADHD Center of West Michigan, where she and her team of therapists, coaches, and nurse practitioners support individuals and families with the emotional, relational, and executive-function challenges of ADHD. She is also co-leader of PTS Coaching, which provides parent coaching, educator training, and professional development. She is the author of Your Brain’s Not Broken, You, Me, and Our ADHD Family, and Your Brain’s Not Broken for Teens and Young Adults. Her work focuses on helping people understand the patterns behind ADHD, move beyond shame, and develop practical strategies that work with the ADHD brain. Tamara is a former president of the ADHD Coaches Organization and co-chairs the International Conference on ADHD.
Bonus Title: Tamara Rosier’s ADHD Resource Library
Bonus Type: Resource Library / Downloadable Tools
Bonus Description: A collection of practical ADHD tools and downloadable resources from Tamara Rosier, including resources for managing tasks, emotions, stress, and relationship patterns
Your Sex Life Might Need Accommodations, Not More Effort: ADHD, Stimulation & Intimacy/Sex
Leann Borneman, PhD, LCSW, CST
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When sex becomes difficult in an ADHD relationship, couples are usually told to communicate more, schedule sex, reduce distractions, or just make intimacy/sex a priority. Sometimes that helps but the issue here is that the sexual environment itself isn’t giving someone’s brain what it needs. This conversation would introduce erotic accommodations and stimulation thresholds which are about how attention, sensory needs, novelty, intensity, predictability, movement, context, and stimulation can all affect someone’s ability to become and stay engaged sexually. Couples would learn how to get curious about the conditions that make intimacy/sex more accessible instead of assuming distraction, boredom, or inconsistent engagement means something is wrong with the relationship.
About Dr. Borneman:
Dr. Leann Borneman is a clinical sexologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, licensed psychotherapist and ADHD sex and relationship researcher. Dr. Borneman is the person making the field of ADHD research uncomfortable in the best possible way. She specializes in the intersection of ADHD and sexuality by bringing rigorous science to a space that has been woefully under researched and overrun with misinformation. Through 7+ years of clinical work, her Executive Desire Model framework, and her podcast ADHD Realities, she helps individuals and couples stop fighting their brains and start building sex lives and relationships that work for them. She’s not here to validate oversimplified narratives. She’s here to raise the standard for clients, for clinicians, and for the field.
Bonus Title: The ADHD-Informed Bedroom Check-In: A Couples Activity for Connection, Clarity & Spark
Bonus Type: PDF
Bonus Description: Understanding that ADHD may be getting in the way of intimacy is one thing. Figuring out what the hell to do with that information as a couple is another. The ADHD-Informed Bedroom Check-In is an 11-page guided resource designed to help couples slow down and figure out what each person really needs to access connection. Together, you’ll check in around mental load, executive functioning, sensory needs, regulation, communication, attention, and the things that may be making intimacy harder to access.
Use it before intimacy, as a regular relationship check-in, or anytime you’re both wondering, why does connecting feel so freaking hard right now? No pressure to perform and no generic advice to just schedule sex. Just a practical way to get curious about what’s happening between you and what might really help.
It’s Not What You Think: Understanding ADHD in Relationships
Susan Dillon Tschudi, M.A., L.M.F.T.
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Relational difficulty is a very common complaint attached to adult ADHD. These difficulties often leave the non ADHD partner confused, frustrated, and even desperate. Adult ADHD manifests within the five life dimensions (relational, physical, emotional, personal, and spiritual), leaving the non ADHD partner confused and misinterpreting how ADHD symptoms in all areas may be adversely affecting the relationship.
About Susan Dillon Tschudi:
Susan Dillon Tschudi is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and relationship expert. She is the author of “Loving Someone with Attention Deficit Disorder (New Harbinger Publications); a chapter contributor in “The Distracted Couple: The Impact of ADHD on Adult Relationships,” (Crown House Publishing); and author of numerous articles on the subject of ADHD and relationships. As an experienced speaker, she has addressed local, national, and international groups and media outlets on the subject of neurodiversity. Susan has also served as an adjunct faculty member at Pepperdine University’s Graduate School of Education and Psychology.
Bonus Title: Loving Someone With Attention Deficit Disorder
Bonus Type: PDF
Bonus Description: A practical guide to understanding your partner, improving communication, and strengthening your relationship.
Stop Managing, Start Partnering: What Really Works in ADHD Relationships
Timothy Dearhamer, LCSW, LISW
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When one partner becomes the manager and the other feels managed, resentment, shame, and frustration can quickly take over. Timothy Dearhamer explores how ADHD couples get stuck in this parent–child dynamic—and, more importantly, how to get out of it. Discover practical ways to break unhelpful conflict cycles, create systems that work with ADHD, share responsibilities more effectively, and get back to being partners instead of manager and managed.
About Timothy Dearhamer:
Timothy Dearhamer is a licensed clinical social worker in Oklahoma and Iowa and the founder of a private practice devoted to adult ADHD and ADHD in relationships in Tulsa, OK, Muscogee (Creek) Nation. Timothy works with couples who love each other and struggle with how ADHD affects relationships, which is often misunderstood. ADHD is more than forgetting, organizing, scheduling, and fidgeting. ADHD often includes strong emotions, shame, anxiety, and difficulty communicating.
Timothy observes that in ADHD relationships, love is rarely the problem. Calendars, clutter, and communication create the friction, and then symptoms get misread as a lack of caring, which they almost never are.
Timothy is an educator and speaker on ADHD. Timothy is a workshop leader at the 2026 International Conference on ADHD in Baltimore, the Zarrow Mental Health Symposium in Tulsa, and regularly provides continuing education for clinicians at events like the Oklahoma Social Work Summit, the Kansas State University Social Work Conference, and the IN-TN NASW Virtual Social Work Conference. Timothy celebrates what ADHD partners bring to relationships such as spontaneity, honesty, resilience, and creativity because most couples have only ever been handed the deficit list.
Bonus Title: “Yellow Before Red” and “The Sunday Reset”
Bonus Type: “Yellow Before Red” is a PDF. “The Sunday Reset” is an mp3.
Bonus Description: Three words that stop a fight before it starts
Most couples don’t need better arguments. They need a way to have a conversation before anyone raises their voice.
Yellow Before Red — a printable card kit built on three words: green, yellow, red. Plus the one rule that makes them work, what to do when your colors don’t match, and cards you cut out and fill in yourselves. It goes on the fridge.
The Sunday Reset — a guided audio check-in for the two of you. Press play once a week and Timothy asks the questions and keeps the time, so neither of you has to decide when to move on. Five minutes to set up. No workbook, no homework, nothing further to buy.
Start with yellow, it’s the color that changes everything.
When Communication Techniques Aren’t Enough: Blame the Cycle, Not Each Other
Rachel Daldry, PCC, CACP, DipCouns
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Good communication skills matter, but what happens when you know the strategies and still find yourselves caught in the same arguments? For ADHD couples, criticism, defensiveness, explaining, overwhelm or withdrawal can quickly become a cycle where both partners are trying to be understood, yet neither feels understood. In this session, Rachel will explore how to recognise these protective patterns, become curious about what is happening underneath them, and shift the focus from “my partner is the problem” to “we’re caught in a cycle together.” You’ll also learn practical ways to interrupt the cycle, regulate, and return to conversations differently.
About Rachel Daldry:
Rachel Daldry (PCC, CACP, DipCouns) is an ADHD Coach and Registered Counsellor specialising in working with adults with ADHD and couples impacted by ADHD.
Her work with couples integrates ADHD psychoeducation and coaching with evidence-informed approaches including Gottman, attachment-based couples therapy and IFS-informed parts work. She helps couples make sense of the emotional and relational dynamics that can keep them stuck in recurring patterns of conflict, while recognising the unique ways ADHD can shape communication, emotional regulation and everyday relationship challenges.
Bringing together her coaching and counselling lenses, Rachel has a practical, compassionate approach that moves beyond insight alone. She helps clients understand not only what is happening and why, but what they can do differently. Her focus is on translating greater awareness into practical, actionable strategies that couples can use outside the therapy room to interrupt unhelpful patterns, strengthen connection and create more sustainable change in their relationships.
Bonus Title: Blame the Cycle, Not Each Other: An ADHD Couples Conflict Toolkit
Bonus Type: PDF
Bonus Description: When the same arguments keep happening, it can feel like you’re fighting about the same things over and over without getting anywhere. This practical ADHD Couples Conflict Toolkit helps you step out of the blame and understand the cycle you’re caught in together. You’ll receive two easy-to-use resources: a reflection map to help you slow down and understand what’s happening underneath recurring conflict, and a relationship time-out guide to help you pause safely when conversations become too activated to continue productively. Use them together to recognise the cycle, regulate, and return to difficult conversations with greater curiosity and connection.
Emotional Dysregulation - It's Time To Take Back Control
Phil Boissiere, MFT
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We all have go-to reactions in conflict. With ADHD in the mix, they can come out oversized, mistimed, or baffling to the person across from you. Learn to catch your most common automatic reactions and swap them for ones that actually work and shed the “defensive” and “impulsive” labels for good!
About Phil Boissiere:
Phil Boissiere, MFT is a licensed psychotherapist and adult ADHD specialist working in the Silicon Valley. He is the author of Thriving with Adult ADHD, a TEDx speaker, and creator of the online course Beyond Focused for Adult ADHD. In addition to his private practice, he co-founded the Elite Focus Clinic for adults with ADHD and is a co-owner of The Relationship Therapy Group.
Bonus Title: Beyond the Blame – What ADHD is really doing to your relationship and what you can do about it.
Bonus Type: Video
Bonus Description: Most couples living with ADHD get stuck in the same fight again and again. One partner forgets, runs late, or leaves something unfinished. The other feels let down and starts to nag or manage. Shame flares. Defenses go up. And round it goes.
In this free course, Phil Boissiere, MFT, shows you how emotional dysregulation, executive dysfunction, and communication challenges conspire together to create a lack of connection. Most importantly, you will learn how to improve all four of these areas. The course is just under one hour long and packed with valuable information, so stay on your toes and be ready to become empowered!
ADHD & Money: Getting on the Same Financial Page
Christine Hargrove, PhD, LMFT, CFT
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Money can be complicated—and ADHD can make financial decisions, planning, and communication even harder. Christine Hargrove explores why couples often see their finances so differently, how ADHD can fuel anxiety and conflict around money, and why traditional budgeting doesn’t always work. Learn practical ways to talk about money more productively, plan for real life, and work together toward greater financial well-being.
About Dr. Hargrove:
Christine Hargrove, PhD, LMFT, CFT™ is a clinical assistant professor and assistant director of the Love and Money Center at the University of Georgia. She serves as President-Elect of the Financial Therapy Association. Her clinical work, research, teaching, and outreach are dedicated to promoting the emotional, relational, and financial wellbeing of people with ADHD, and she has been featured in media outlets such as CNN, Nerdwallet, Fidelity.com, MarketWatch, and USA Today
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Rekindle Your ADHD Relationship: Practical Tools for Couples
Register for the workshop on its own and it’s $147 per couple. Get Encore instead and you pay $97 for lifetime access to every Couples’ Palooza session, and the live workshop comes with it.
WORKSHOP ONLY
The live workshop on its own includes:
- 3-hour live workshop with Linda Roggli
- Workbook
- Replay
- Both partners, one registration
$147
ENCORE PACKAGE + LIVE WORKSHOP: BOTH FOR $97
Three days can go quickly, especially when life, work, kids, appointments and ADHD are involved. With Encore, you can return to every session on your own schedule.
Your Encore package includes:
- Video recordings
- Audio recordings
- Written transcripts
- Speaker bonus gifts and resources
- Ongoing access to the sessions
PLUS: Rekindle Your ADHD Relationship: Practical Tools for Couples Workshop ($147 value)
Live Saturday, November 7, 2026, 1:00–4:00 PM ET
Workbook included • Replay available • Both partners, one registration
$344 $97
Hurry! The free workshop bonus ends Sunday, November 1.
What You’ll Work On Together
Linda’s 7 C’s of a Remarkable ADHD Relationship
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Commitment
Spot your “great escapes” and build the safety that makes real closeness possible.
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Communication
Talk in a way that’s clear, clean, current and concise, and listen until your partner is truly finished.
03
Co-responsibility
Trade blame for teamwork. Ask for what you need instead of expecting your partner to read your mind.
04
Connection
Small daily acts of kindness and affection that rebuild warmth, even when things have been rocky.
05
Clearing
Fight fair: stay with today’s issue, skip the “always” and “never,” and choose being loved over being right.
06
Compromise
Think both/and instead of either/or, and find the middle ground where you both win.
07
Creativity
Put the fun back in. Playful ways to interrupt the same old stuck argument and rediscover each other.
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All 7, Live with Linda
Included free with the Encore Package through November 1. Workbook and replay included.
bonus live workshop included with the encore package
Rekindle Your ADHD Relationship:
Practical Tools for Couples Workshop
Live on Zoom | Both partners, one registration | Workbook included | Replay available
Meet Your Workshop Leader: Linda Roggli, PCC
Linda is a professional certified coach who specializes in ADHD, the founder of the ADDiva Network and an award-winning author on midlife ADHD. She also contributed to a book on ADHD couples written for professionals.
She knows this territory from the inside, too. Linda is the ADHD half of a marriage of more than three decades with her husband, Victor. After a rocky start, they learned the simple concepts that changed everything, and since 2007 they’ve hosted private retreats for ADHD couples, many of them at a breaking point.
This workshop brings the heart of that retreat work to you, in three practical hours, from home.
You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone
ADHD can create relationship patterns that are hard to recognize when you’re living in the middle of them, and even harder to change on your own.
In three hours with Linda, you and your partner will practice real tools for talking, listening and reconnecting, and leave with a workbook and replay to keep using them.
Come with your partner or come on your own. We’d love to have you with us.
Free workshop bonus ends soon!
Frequently Asked Questions
I didn’t watch the Couples’ Palooza. Can I still get this?
Yes. Encore gives you lifetime access to every 2026 Couples’ Palooza session, so you can catch up on your own schedule. The live workshop stands on its own, too, so you don’t need to have watched anything first.
Do both partners need to buy?
No. One registration covers both of you for the live workshop.
What if my partner won’t attend?
Come on your own. The tools work best practiced together, but plenty of people start by changing their side of the conversation.
What if we can’t make it live on November 7?
A replay is included, along with the workbook, so you can go through it together whenever it works for you.
How do we join the workshop?
It’s live online on Zoom. Encore buyers will receive the Zoom link by email before the workshop.
What happens after November 7?
The free workshop bonus ends. After that, the workshop is available on its own for $147 per couple.
Do we need an ADHD diagnosis to attend?
No. You don’t need a formal diagnosis, and you don’t need to be married.